How to Handle Temper Tantrums

by | Mar 10, 2023 | Communication, Disicpline | 0 comments

Understanding temper tantrums

Temper tantrums are emotional outbursts that children often display. They can occur when children feel overwhelmed or frustrated and do not have the language or coping skills to express their emotions effectively. Tantrums range from mild crying to full-blown screaming, kicking, and throwing objects. They usually last a few minutes but can feel like an eternity for parents.

Common triggers for temper tantrums

Understanding the common triggers can help parents prevent them from occurring. Some common triggers include:

  • Hunger or thirst
  • Tiredness or lack of sleep
  • Overstimulation or sensory overload
  • Frustration with not getting what they want
  • Being told “no”
  • Boredom or lack of attention
  • Changes in routine or environment
  • Stress or anxiety
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Tips for preventing temper tantrums

Preventing temper tantrums is possible with a few simple strategies. Here are some tips:

  • Establish a consistent routine
  • Provide plenty of positive attention
  • Give your child choices whenever possible
  • Offer healthy snacks and meals regularly
  • Ensure your child gets enough sleep
  • Avoid overstimulation and limit screen time
  • Give warnings before transitions
  • Prepare your child for changes in routine or environment

Strategies for handling tantrums

When a temper tantrum occurs, staying calm and responding appropriately is essential. Here are some strategies for handling temper tantrums:

a. Remaining calm

When your child is throwing a tantrum, it’s important to remain calm. Take a deep breath, count to ten, and control your emotions. This can help prevent the situation from escalating.

b. Providing comfort

Providing comfort can help calm your child down. Offer a hug, hold your child, or offer a soothing voice to help them feel secure and loved.

c. Ignoring the behavior

Sometimes, ignoring the behavior can be effective. If your child is throwing a tantrum for attention, ignoring the behavior can show them that it’s not an effective way to get what they want.

d. Using distraction

Distraction can be an effective way to redirect your child’s attention away from the tantrum. Offer a favorite toy or activity to help them focus on something else.

e. Setting boundaries

Setting boundaries can help prevent tantrums from occurring in the first place. Let your child know what is expected of them and what behaviors are unacceptable.

f. Consistency in discipline

Consistency in discipline is crucial. Make sure your child knows what the consequences will be for unacceptable behavior and follow through with them.

Coping with your own frustration

It’s essential to cope with your own frustration when dealing with a temper tantrum. Remember that tantrums are a normal part of childhood development, and try not to take them personally. Take a step back, breathe, and remind yourself that your child is still learning and growing.

Seeking professional help if needed

If your child’s tantrums are severe, frequent, or impacting their daily life, it may be time to seek professional help. A pediatrician or mental health professional can help determine if any underlying issues need to be addressed.

When to worry about tantrums

While temper tantrums are a normal part of childhood, there are times when they may indicate a more significant issue. If your child’s tantrums are becoming more severe, lasting longer than usual, or accompanied by other concerning behaviors, it’s important to seek professional help.

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Temper tantrums are a normal part of childhood development, but they can be frustrating for parents. By understanding the common triggers and using effective strategies for prevention and handling, parents can help their children learn to express their emotions in healthy ways. Remember to stay calm, set boundaries, and seek professional help if needed.


  1. Are temper tantrums a sign of bad parenting?
    Temper tantrums are a normal part of childhood development and do not necessarily indicate bad parenting.

  2. Should I give in to my child’s demands during a tantrum?
    No, giving in to your child’s demands during a tantrum reinforces the behavior and can make it worse in the future.

  3. How long do temper tantrums typically last?
    Temper tantrums usually last a few minutes but can sometimes last longer.

  4. Can temper tantrums be a sign of a developmental disorder?
    Yes, in some cases, temper tantrums can be a sign of a developmental disorder such as ADHD or autism.

  5. When should I seek professional help for my child’s temper tantrums?
    If your child’s tantrums are severe, frequent, or impacting their daily life, it’s important to seek professional help.
Denny Strecker

Denny Strecker owns and operates Prestige Martial Arts, where he has taught children how to develop their Confidence, Discipline, and Leadership Skills since 1997.

Denny is also the author of the Amazon Best-Selling Book
“How to Double Your Child’s Confidence in Just 30 Days”

Denny Strecker

Child Leadership Coach